My 84-year-old mum helps me cope with depression and I am scared of her dying

DEAR DEIDRE: I WORRY about how I will cope when my elderly mum is no longer able to help me.

I suffer with social anxiety and depression and have done throughout my life. I am a 58-year-old man.

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I live alone and see my mum a couple of times a week when she comes to my flat. She also calls me every day.

I’m barely able to function a lot of the time. On a good day I may go for a walk or possibly do some food shopping.

The rest of the time I either watch television or spend the day in bed with the curtains closed.

I don’t have friends and have never had a girlfriend. Mum is 84 and her health is deteriorating.

Her memory is getting worse and I know that soon she won’t be able to support me so much.

I am becoming more and more desperate about what is going to happen when she is gone.

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DEIDRE SAYS:  I do understand your desperation. Depression drains your energy and hope, making it feel impossible to take the steps that will help you feel better.

Depression makes us withdraw and isolate but if you reach out for support, your life will improve.

Staying connected to others will make a world of difference to your mood and outlook.

Speak to Mind, the mental health charity (, 0300 123 3393). My support pack on Depression will help too.

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