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Bride branded 'selfish' for refusing to let pal propose at HER wedding

Bride-to-be blasts maid of honour who asked if she could propose to her girlfriend at the wedding and branded her a ‘selfish b***h’ for ‘wanting all the attention’ when she refused

  • Bride-to-be, from UK, said pal wanted to propose to girlfriend during her nuptials
  • Took to Reddit and revealed she told her ‘no,’ to which friend called her ‘selfish’
  • Friend, also maid of honour, slammed the bride for being ‘centre of attention’

A bride-to-be who revealed her pal wanted to propose to her girlfriend during her nuptials has sparked an online debate over whether wedding guests should ever be allowed to pop the question on someone else’s big day.

Taking to Reddit, the anonymous woman, 27, who is believed to be from the UK, shared her dilemma – and was evidently unimpressed with her friend’s suggestion.

‘I am getting married at the end of the month and my childhood best friend and maid of honour has asked me if she can propose to her girlfriend at my wedding,’ she wrote. 

‘She says that it would be nice if she could get engaged at my wedding because she is with her girlfriend because of me and my partner and it would be sweet to get engaged when we are celebrating our love and commitment to each other.’

However, despite admitting that it was a lovely thought, the woman reiterated how it was meant to be her big day – and no one else’s.

An unimpressed bride-to-be, 27, believed to be from the UK, has told how her pal wanted to propose to her girlfriend during her nuptials

The post on Reddit (pictured) has since sparked a debate online over whether wedding guests should ever be allowed to pop the question to their significant other on someone else’s big day

‘I told her no because it’s my wedding,’ she penned. ‘So she said that I was being a selfish b***h and I couldn’t let her have this one good thing because I always had to make myself the centre of attention.

‘I told her no again and that if she still wanted to propose at my wedding she better tell me now so I can get a new MOH, and that she is uninvited from the wedding.’

The woman went on to explain that since her disagreement with the maid of honour, they haven’t spoken in a month.   

She continued: ‘My partner asked me if letting her propose our wedding would be such a bad thing and if I’m really willing to throw away a 20+ year friendship over it.

‘Most of our mutual friends are on my side but some of them are telling me that I should let her have this.

‘I feel guilty because I have been the more outgoing one in our friendship so I tend to get most of the attention from other people.’

Many defended the bride-to-be and expressed their disbelief that she had been called ‘selfish’ by her supposed friend (pictured)

The bride-to-be concluded her post by asking members of the forum whether she was in the wrong – but many defended her and expressed their disbelief that she had been called ‘selfish’ by her supposed friend. 

‘I love how she thinks you’re selfish for not wanting her to propose at YOUR wedding. Like, what? I’d keep her demoted and uninvited at this point. Sad, but honestly she doesn’t sound like much of a friend,’ wrote one. 

A second penned: ‘Clearly this friend likes to deflect. Uninvite your MOH and choose a new one. I’m guessing your friend group are always bending to her drama. Some people don’t like to rock the boat, but they are just teaching her that if she pitches a fit she can get her way. 

‘If she does come and gets engage, please announce your pregnancy at her wedding.’

A third added: ‘Lol. I also love that she’s calling OP selfish and wanting to be the center of attention…Ummmm. Yeah. It’s OPs freaking wedding. She’s supposed to be the center of attention. Ditch the friend. Definitely NTA.’ 

Others instead took the side of the maid-of-honour, insisting that they didn’t see a problem with her request (pictured)

Another went on to note how the maid-of-honour is just after a ‘free engagement party/celebration’ at the bride-to-be’s expense. 

She continued: ‘No way in hell! She’s NTA for asking, BUT she is very much TA and quite frankly an awful friend for not accepting your answer, pushing the issue and then calling you a selfish b****. Honestly I would have done the exact same thing if I were you.’

However, others instead took the side of the maid-of-honour, insisting that they didn’t see a problem with her request.

‘I dunno; if someone attending my wedding proposed to their partner in private, and they didn’t announce it/make a big fuss about it, I’m not going to mind at all,’ wrote one.

A second commented: ‘I would be so happy of my friends got engaged at their wedding. It a day of love, the only way it can better is by adding more love.’

Meanwhile, a third suggested: ‘I’m curious about something. Not taking a position, just curious. What would be wrong with coordinating a time near the end of the event when the proposal could happen? OP has her day. It’s about her. But things wind down at some point. People start to head out. Why not then?’ 

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